When I say the word success, what comes to mind? Is it a beautiful beach house off the coast of New England? Or perhaps that new Audi S5 you’ve been lusting after, or maybe it is a picture perfect home with a beautiful spouse and two beautiful children. Whatever it is, deep down you truly desire and yearn for some sort of success.
However, many have a mindset that there is a shortage of success. People will always complain about a shortage of jobs, a shortage of good employees, and, of course, a shortage of money. The truth is…they are all wrong. Also, if you believe that success has something to do with luck or you're born into it, you’re still wrong. Having grown up in Rhode Island, I always frequented the beach. Every time I gazed upon the vastness of the ocean, I always marveled how infinite it appeared. Success is just like the ocean, plentiful and bountiful and, perhaps, seems like its never-ending.
We were born and designed to experience and express tremendous success and anything short of it is due to ignorance, laziness or pure victim mentality. Trust me, I’ve been there myself more than a few times. We could say a lot of things as to what makes a successful person. Let’s just name a few.
Willingness to Follow Direction
This can be a hard pill to swallow for some. As a child and teenager, I loved Punk rock music and culture. Matter of fact, I still do. But as I began to mature I realized that one of the biggest elements that sub-culture emphasizes is a rebellion against all authority. Rebellion runs deep in our soul and some of us have a harder time obeying with our words and actions. The opposite of rebellion is submission and displaying humility. Humility takes the posture of abasing yourself to others. That means when someone who possesses more authority or wisdom is teaching you, you shut up, listen and engage. You certainly don’t have to agree with them and I would encourage you to question everything they say with a right attitude. But if your authority figure has credibility, give them the benefit of the doubt. I’m sure you’ve heard the term, “there is no I in .” You simply can’t be successful on your own. I was an only child for many years. I value my alone time immensely and I also march to beat of my own drum. However, I cannot be successful if I don’t enlist the help of others and follow their direction. Most rebels lose in the end anyway. Don’t be on the losing side.
Amount of Self-Discipline
Once again, I failed this test multiple times. But do you want to know the great thing? I have an unlimited amount of times I can retake that test and every day I take this test and grade myself (and so do others!) There is nothing new this category. Sleep, diet, and exercise, abstain from riotous living and success will be that much easier. Discipline is a choice and must be made daily. Die to yourself so you can gain greater pleasures for the future. Compile a list of 10 goals and write them daily. Write them morning and evening. Say them out loud every time and visualize it. That in itself takes discipline, but watch what happens and you will be surprised.
Ability to Work Under Pressure
I hate pressure. It can either make us or break us. The beautiful diamond a woman wears on her hand was formed under pressure. Consider the everyday utensils we use: cups, forks, and plates. They were all molded, sculpted, and put under pressure to bring value to our lives. Our true colors are revealed when we are put under pressure, but failing and learning from those mistakes will make us that much more conscious of our weakness and strengths. Being able to identify our weakness under pressure is crucial. For without it, we will break every time. However, when pressure is applied there will be no shortage of success. We limit ourselves to thinking we can only do so much under pressure when in reality we have stunted our own growth. Examine yourself under pressure. If you need help, ask a trusted friend or colleague to give an honest raw evaluation. Remember to stay humble, suck up pride and you will gain a little more success.
Emotional Commitment to Succeed
There is no shortage of success. It is our duty, obligation, and responsibility. You might not have realized this yet but people are depending on your success. So many take the easy way out and are dead. They have committed social suicide. No life, no purposes just floating aimlessly like a lost sailor out at sea. You see my friend; there is a cost to both sides. Committing to success will cost you. It will cost you certain friends, certain pleasures, and a loss of temporary comfort. You have to be willing to simplify your life and replace your habits with successful ones. If you’re unsure how to do this then I suggest listening to successful people on YouTube, podcasts, etc. Find the most successful people you know and ask for their advice. Don’t give up. Be relentless. Be obsessive if you must. Are you committed to success?
The Ability to Read People
People lie. Matter of fact, we all lie and some of us are amazing liars. Interestingly enough, body language does not lie. Reading up on body language and then taking some time to people watch will make you much more valuable as a person. It will also bring you closer to success. Studies say that only 40% of communication is verbal and the rest is all body language. Women are also more likely to pick up on body language than men. This begins when you start observing people and how they position themselves in dialogue with you. Where are their feet pointing? The feet point where the mind wants to go. If a person says they are not interested, but display open palms, they are subconsciously telling you they are open and friendly. If the palms are facing down, they are telling you they are not interested at this time. Great exercises to start with is watching one or two Ted Talks and visiting a mall for an hour. Watch the interactions between people and try to figure them out. This will only benefit you and your success.
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