Hopefully, this title doesn’t offend anyone but then again if it does it is meant to strike a positive chord with change. Most likely, if your reading this you have identified in your life some level of mediocrity. It has resulted in a sub-par, average life with average results. Sounds boring and familiar? If you’re content with the status quo then this isn’t for you.
Miracles follow the plow. Let’s like miracles to “success” and the plow as a catalyst for change. Now the plow is an antiquated tool, but it’s a simple tool to dig up the earth. As I mentioned, the majority have settled for average and minimal success. They have experienced no growth and no legacy to leave behind. They are like a big open, green pasture that lies untouched for many years, but certainly pleasant to behold. Sadly, it doesn’t produce anything other than a sight to see and maybe a few wayward weeds.
However, when the plow touches the soil the fallow ground is loosened, overturned and moisture and oxygen begin to enter the once dormant soil. It is ready to be tilled, ready for seeds, and ready for water and the sun. If the proper planning and preparation are taken, it will start to produce. Our average lives are like the pasture; it is non-producing. When our lives experience the plow (catalyst) it can begin to start yielding results.
Average can be defined as, “of the usual or ordinary standard, level, or quantity.” There is absolutely nothing special about it.
But here’s the truth, average won’t produce anything that will build a legacy, build long-term wealth, or even create a social movement that impacts the lives of millions. If you’re a dreamer, entrepreneur, artist, musician, activist then please keep on reading. Dreams are worth chasing, but many never even try to attempt to chase them.
The real reason why you are average is that you are not obsessed. Do you ever remember a time in high school where you had this unhealthy obsession with some crush? You thought about them constantly. You imagined possible scenarios of the two of you together. Maybe you even lied awake in bed thinking about them. They dominated almost every waking thought. If this wasn’t you, then I am sorry. But to those who have obsessed over a person, you know exactly what I mean.
Obsess can be defined as, “to preoccupy or fill the mind of (someone or something) continually, intrusively, and to a troubling extent.”
Please, don’t let me be misunderstood. We are not talking about the unhealthy obsessive stalker mentality…oh no, not at all. I’m advocating developing a mindset of being obsessed with success. It must dominate your thinking. There is no magic overnight formula for this. If there were it would be sold out. Typically, it takes a catalyst to put us in gear.
Grant Cardone is famous for his expression, “Be Obsessed or be Average.” He goes on to tell his story of a wasted youth from drugs to becoming a multi-millionaire. When I heard his story via podcast, it came at just the perfect time. Like an angel bringing good tidings, it resonated with my soul. For I myself had a temporary battle with drugs.
Personally, I never once believed addiction to be an untreatable disease. Never have and never will. I don’t care what the experts say. Do I believe some people are more prone to addictions and have addictive personalities? Absolutely. Does addiction exist? Yes! When my purpose was about getting the next fix, I was obsessive to the extreme. Luckily, I could support my habits, but it surely left me broken financially, mentally, and spiritually.
When I reflect back on those dark moments, I amaze myself with how extreme I went in order to get my fix. It was truly obsessive, but I always got what I wanted. I didn’t stop. I found a way. I was persistent. Even to the point of borderline annoying to some, but I almost always managed to get what I was seeking for. Sadly, those experiences were fleeting and never stacked up in value for what I put into obtaining them.
In conclusion, I want to highlight two things. One, my obsession with drugs was about to take a turn for the worse. I had to make a decision. Did I want to become a junkie or get clean? (That was my catalyst.) Two, I had an opportunity to take my unhealthy obsession and transfer it to something that will start producing results. But the obsession has to be extreme, extreme to the point where others start to notice.
While life is full of many uncertainties, the average will not make you rise above the noise. You must be obsessed. If you're having trouble finding ways to be obsessed, feel free to reach out.
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