A MODERN APPROACH TO MENTORING MILLENNIALS
Pornography has always existed in some sort of fashion. Whether it be from archaic scribblings on the wall, Greek masterpieces, playboy magazines or adult videos, there’s nothing new under the sun. While this may not be your typical article for LinkedIn, I can assure you this topic is directly related to your success as a business person.
Anyways, I’m sure you’ve noticed that it is much more accessible now through the internet, smartphones, tablets, and other media outlets. Things have changed over the past 20 years. There once was a time where if you really wanted to see some racy photos, you had to go into the hidden dark places to find some of the forbidden fruit. If you were lucky, you had a friend who would steal from his father’s collection.
Okay, I admit I had a neighbor who would steal magazines from his dad! In addition, I also admit I have wasted a great deal of time on this topic and truth be told, it doesn’t accomplish anything for me, a matter of fact I hate the feeling of fatigue and exhaustion. Sexual energy is a great thing and sadly it is wasted through a screen rather channeled into productivity and success. Sure, there is that initial rush and anticipation of something great, but in the end, it hurts us spiritually, emotionally and us relationally. It also has a great impact on our business life. I know that I am not alone in this cause. I am not telling you what to do with your habits, I am merely suggesting that in order to breed more success, the porn habit needs to go or be drastically reduced.
"This orgy of indulgence may account for the shortage of great leaders. No man can avail himself of the forces of his creative imagination, while dissipating them.” – Napoleon Hill, Think and Grow Rich
Research after research shows the devastating effects of habitual pornography. Just Google it and you’ll see for yourself. Even GQ magazine wrote an article about kicking the porn habit. While most of us can admit we have been guilty of this dirty deed more than once, this is one of the vices we like to keep hush hush. However, like everything else, there is a solution to stop or greatly curb our vices, especially on our iPhones and iPads. I must warn you in advance, it is difficult and extreme and not everyone can do this. I understand there are limits regarding work phones and devices. However, I devised a plan to initiate some good tactics to kicking the porn habit from your iPhone or idevice, in order to achieve some success.
DELETE MOST APPS- Yes, this is possible and you can do it if you want to. The hardest apps to delete will probably be all social media apps and your web browser. You see, the great thing about any smartphone is that you can have any app at your disposal, but ask yourself this question, “Do I really need all these apps?” Which apps do you use the most, excluding social media? I am not nieve to think that some of you cannot do this because we need "some" apps. I suggest you try it for a week, that's if you're serious about kicking the habit.
BLOCK THE APP STORE- Go to Settings, find General, scroll down to Restrictions, and find a list of apps that Apple allows you to block. Once all your apps are deleted, keep your favorite three apps. (NO SOCIAL MEDIA AND WEB BROWSER). Disable the App store and Safari. Keep in mind, do this temporarily for a solid week.
ACCOUNTABILITY - This is where we include the help of a lover or a friend in our quest for a pure iPhone. Once everything is blocked, have your trusted companion set a password in the restrictions. Make sure they keep a copy physically and mentally. The point of this is so YOU don’t have access at any time to slide the switch and turn on those beloved apps!
ENJOY WHAT REMAINS- Besides your three chosen apps, you have all that Apple has supplied you with: Text, Mail, Photos, Camera, Weather, Maps, Notes, Music, Calculator and Voice Memos. What else do you really need? Take time to be grateful. Go read a book, fly a kite, get off your ass!
BE PRODUCTIVE- Most likely, you will continue to pick up your phone and unlock it, check your email, check your text and scroll aimlessly until you find that there is nothing you can do, and then put your phone away. The urges will be strong, but you are making the right decisions. Because of your decisions, your life will drastically improve.
In conclusion, people may ask, "Why even have an iPhone?" Keep this in mind; it is only a temporary solution, to get some control of your habits. You could try the steps above for a few days, a week or even a month. At the end of the day, you are the boss of your life. You choose. To answer the critic I say, “Use your iPhone as a purely productive tool. Use it as a phone. You can text, listen to music or even a podcast to enrich your life." And as far as kicking the porn habit, there's more to follow on that topic in 2017. If you don't think this relevant, take 15 minutes and watch the TED Talk below. Happy 2017!